Liz Salamy Abess, MFA, CAP

Helping overgivers stop losing themselves and start living again.

Break Free From Overgiving

Take Your Life Back.

FREEDOM STARTS HERE

Stop fixing them. Start living your life.

If other people’s struggles have taken over your peace, your identity, or your bandwidth, it’s time for something different.

Whether you love someone navigating addiction or emotional chaos—or were shaped by it growing up—learn to release the role of managing others and reconnect with your own freedom, joy and purpose.

With coaching you can let go. Reclaim your life. Go from fixer to freedom.

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Testimonials

  • "Liz has been so instrumental in helping me to find clarity and navigate complicated situations in my life. I'm so thankful that I can access her gift for coaching when I need a caring, wise and discerning ear."

    —Tina Bobo, Wilton, CA

  • "Wow! That was productive! I learned more from you than my other therapists! Thank you for helping me get my power back! "

    Donnamae Mallet – Folsom, CA

  • "It was really helpful for me, as a codependent, to share in a safe setting some of my struggles and bad habits of enabling the addict in my life. Liz makes me believe there is hope for change and how important it is to have dreams and visions for a future."

    Sharyl Eichhorn - El Dorado Hills, CA

  • “Liz recently did her Codependency talk at our Celebrate Recovery, and it certainly touched a lot of people. Those who knew they struggled with boundaries and codependency and those who didn’t know they did until her talk. She has a way of reaching everyone with specific examples and suggestions that can help everyone and things they can apply right away. We continue to hear from our CR attendees who benefited from Liz’s help many months later.”

    Rodney Wegemer - Celebrate Recovery Folsom

  • "Not only does Liz bring her own experiences and knowledge to the table, but it is also backed with great research. So many people do not understand what codependency is and the affects it has on individuals, families, and workplace environments. I highly recommend attending her workshop. It is designed for those new to the term and those who have extensive knowledge of the subject."

    Jason C. Bergh - Folsom, CA

  • "You find peace when you realize another person's actions and words have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Liz’s workshop helps us identify codependency and the control it has on us. She has a great way of communicating the work needed to help release the hold it has us as individuals."

    Rosemary Park - Roseville, CA

LOVING WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF

Liz Abess sitting in backyard reading the book "Smacked" while smiling.

Hi there, I’m Liz!

Many of us high-functioning adults find ourselves caught in the rhythm of managing other people’s struggles. Over time, caretaking can quietly become our identity, leaving us distracted, exhausted, and disconnected from our own lives. We may begin to notice the cost in our work, our relationships, and our ability to enjoy everyday life.

If addiction or emotional chaos has thrown a relationship out of balance and your life isn’t what you imagined, you’re in the right place. I invite you to explore what’s happening through a new lens—with guidance from someone who’s lived alongside these struggles and found her way back to freedom, joy, and a life that feels complete.

As a certified coach, I’ll help you understand the roles that have kept you stuck and discover how to begin stepping out of them. Together, we’ll build practical skills for setting boundaries, responding with intention, and making room for your own needs and dreams—while still caring for someone you love.

Let’s get your joy back!

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Coaching

If you find yourself constantly managing someone else’s chaos it’s easy to lose sight of your own life. Through guided coaching, you’ll recognize your patterns, let go of what’s holding you back, and step fully into your own freedom and identity.

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Free Resources

Start your recovery process on the right foot and with the right resources. Download our free resources today, which include family support groups for addiction, codependency and recovery.

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